Save Your Marriage Before It Is To Late

There are plenty of reasons why marriages fail. Sometimes you cannot work things out put most of the time you can. Here are some scenarios of how marriages fail.

I know a couple who got a divorce because of their inability to resolve conflicts. When they were dating and first got married neither one of them smoked. Joseph had a very stressful job. He began smoking on his breaks to try and get rid of some of the stress. After a while it became an addiction. Alexis didn't like it and they began to argue about it. She eventually gave in but he was not allowed to smoke in the house. She really hated it but he would not quit. After a while she quit arguing with him about it even though it still greatly bothered her. When winter came Joseph became sick of smoking outside. He felt that he payed part of the bills so he should be allowed to smoke inside. Even though it made Alexis furious he did it anyway. They began to argue constantly about it. After a while Alexis gave up. Everytime she saw him smoke she would get even madder but she kept holding it in because she knew he wouldn't listen. He just ignored her everytime she said something about it. Alexis started becoming disgusted with the whole situation. After a couple of months she started bringing it up again. Joseph ignored her once again. Alexis started getting even more disgusted and fed up with it. They could just not work out a comprimise. After a couple of months she tried to bring it up again and he ignored her once again. That was the straw that broke the camel's back. She could not stand the fact that he ignored her everytime she brought it up. She was on her lunch break at work and went for a ride to think about what she could do to get through to them. She thought about it for a long time. Alexis began to think that Joseph would act the same way with more serious issues like children. She finally decided if he is not going to at least listen to her then there is no sense on continuing. The next day she decided to file a divorce because of unreconciable differences.

Affairs are the reason why a majority of relationships fail. Affairs happen for a lot of different reasons. A couple I knew really good had that problem. Mike and Shannon were married for 12 years. They have 3 daughters together. their ages are 3, 7, and 8. Needless to say life is a little hectic. Mike is an accountant. Shannon is a stay at home mom. They have such busy schedules that they do not even have time to be intimate anymore. Mike hired a new attractive receptionist a couple of months ago. He knows she is a very attractive girl and that is one of the reasons why he hired her. Mike and Shannon got in an argument one day before he left for work. What made the argument escalate was that he told her how sick he was of the lack of intimacy. On the way to work he was thinking about how fed up he was. Sandra had on a very revealing outfit and mike just could not contain his sexual desires. Him and Sandra went out to lunch together. He began flirting with her and telling her that he wanted to have an affair with her. She agreed and they started having an affair. They got away with it for a long time. Eventually Shannon caught on. She told Mike to end the affair or they would get a divorce. He said ok but still continued to have a the affair. Shannon decided to file for divorce. While she was doing so Mike had also made a decision to leave her for the 22 year old Sandra.

Excessive fighting leads to stress and anger towards your partner. An occasional fight is not a bad thing but to much will ruin a relationship. Josh and Kristen have been married for 2 1/2 years. They fight over anything. A debate quickly becomes a heated argument. Both of them get very frustrated and annoyed with the fights. Everytime they try to talk out a problem out both start yelling and need to get away from eachother. Most of their arguments start small and then escalate. One of their last arguments was about what color they should paint the house. They could not come close to agreeing on a color. Neither one was willing to comprimise. Josh and Kristen just could not reach an agreement and it was destroying their relationship. Their house never got painted because of that. The last fight they had was over where to go out to eat on their anniversary. They started yelling at eachother. Josh finally decided that he does not want to deal with it anymore. They always had fights about everything.

Tom and Diane could not communicate. Tom is a very quiet person and Diane is very outgoing. Diane gets very frustrated that Tom does not share his problems with her. He would never tell her how he really felt. When he got mad at her he wouldn't say anything. Just think in his head how annoyed he was. Tom just held in all of his feelings. Diane was getting tired of him ignoring her when she would try to talk about her problems. She began getting fed up with it. Tom got annoyed with her always trying to have deep conversations. She started getting on him about it all of the time. Diane finally got so disgusted that she filed for divorce.


Nobody likes having a controlling partner. Paul and Kim were married for 5 years. At first things were ok because Paul was not controlling. After about 6 months Kim started noticing a difference. It started as little things. When she was getting ready for work he would say things about her outfits. She would just ignore it and finish getting ready. Paul would just drop it then. After about 3 months passed he began yelling at her about what to wear. It got to the point where he threw out all of the clothes of hers that he didn't approve of. He began not wanting her to spend time with her friends. Then after a while he began not wanting her to spend time with her family. She wasn't allowed to go anywhere by herself. Paul had to be with her all of the time. Somehow Kim put up with it for a while. Paul had to drive her to work and pick her up. She started getting really fed up. It got to the point where she couldn't even go to the bathroom by herself. Kim began thinking of what she could do. She needed a way out. One day at lunch he snuck away to go to lunch with an old friend. Paul had not let her talk to this friend for over 4 years. While they were at lunch Kim found at that her friend had 2 kids and was engaged. She got so mad that she had missed that and began thinking about what else she has missed. Kim couldn't think of a way out. She began thinking about suicide. After thinking of a more rational way to get out she decided she was going to file for divorce. Kim did not even tell Paul what she was doing. One night when he went out she began packing her stuff . She out everything in the back of her SUV. When Paul came home he didn't know what happened. 3 days later he received a letter from Kim's attorney about the divorce. Paul killed himself after he got done reading the whole letter. Kim still feels guilty about it but knows if she would have stayed she would have been the one killing herself.

Money is another major issue in marriages. Money is not everything but you need it to survive. Robert and Allison had a very happy marriage. They were married for 8 years. They started dating sophmore year in high school and got married after they both graduated college. Robert became an orthodontist. Allison became a teacher. They both had successful careers and financial flexability. Robert was on the losing side of a malpractice suit. He lost his liscense to practice. He also got a civil suit filed against him from a drunk driving accident and lost his house. They had to find a new place to live. Robert and Allison ended up renting a 1 bedroom apartment. Robert ended up getting a job at Walmart. Allison was making double the money he made. It began having a lot of problems. Their relationship began having problems. Allison always through it in his face that they would have had a better life if he didn't mess up. Robert got sick of the degrading comments and filed for divorce.

A lot fo marriages can be saved. The reason a lot of them are not is because of people making mistakes when trying to fix them. One of the biggest mistakes people make is trying to hard. There are actually a lot of proven techniques to save your marriage.

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